Maybe you are a lucky person with no care about aesthetics or you're just plain happy with the face and body you see in the mirror. Maybe you just truly don't care about things like that. If this is the case, Rock on! I seriously applaud you. There is no sarcasm here. Our world often places so much emphasis on the outside package that we forget about the inside or we feel so focused on the inside, we forget about the outside.
But, maybe you're like me and the truth is- you do care. You notice the crows feet that have become laugh ravines down the side of your face. You want to love them because they came from expressions and moments that made you who you are. BUT, there is often still a nagging self doubt- a silent critique.
Every once in a while, I really try to imagine what others see when they look at me. Do they see strength, beauty and vibrancy, or do they see age, wear, and weakness? It's not healthy to go down the rabbit hole of negativity here, so I use this exercise as a way to discover unusual things that maybe someone else might see and appreciate, but that I often overlook or even curse.
This exercise was born from my regular observation of the beauty in others. It might be odd, but if I am staring at your mouth when you speak, it may be that I think the way your lips form your words is intriguing. If I glance sideways at you as I pass you in the hall, it may be that I caught your profile and noticed the amazing way the angle of your nose is so different than others I've seen. I might notice the shade of your eyes, that little freckle above your cheek bone, that scar from when you feel off of your bike as a young boy. I see things that others might find annoying or repulsive or odd about themselves- and I see them as beautiful.
I wonder if people that I observe knew about these things I found beautiful, if they'd think I was strange or odd for noticing- if they'd shrug it off because they've lived with it for so long, it's commonplace now. I want to go around the community and shout out all of the pieces I find most interesting, beautiful and wonderful in each of my neighbors- but THAT would NOT get me an invitation to the block party.
Where I'm headed with this is- I think there are so many reasons to love ourselves, but like a Monet, we are so close all we see are dots of ourselves... a blurry image. We don't know the ways others see us and have envy or appreciation. We don't know the beauty in our "flaws". What if we could jump into the eyes of a stranger and look at ourselves from afar, would our line of site train on the special qualities- our unique beauty? It might happen more often than we think and we might be missing it.
Today, notice your smile, is it crooked? Someone finds it cute. Notice your jawline, is it soft or sharp or covered in whiskers? Someone finds it cuddly. Notice the twinkle of your eyes, the light dancing within them. Someone finds them unforgettable. Embrace your unique beauty today. What do you think others might notice in you? Feel free to celebrate your FLAWESOMEness today in the comments below.
Intuitive mother, writer, teacher, wellness coach, daughter, wife, friend and advocate for true belonging and self love.