So, goal getter... How are you doing? Making great gains? Wish they were faster? Hmmm...Have you stalled out? When was the last time you asked for help?
I grew up in a house where I prized my mother's selflessness. She waited on the world. From making meals, to cleaning, to delivering breakfast to working and a million other things- she did it all. She fixed things. She mended hurt feelings. I idolized her and I still do. What I know now, however, and what I wish I told her then was...
YOU DON'T HAVE TO DO IT ALL. You are so loved and special that you don't need to solve every problem. You can rest. You have a goal? A dream? Chase it! I'll help.
Hindsight is an amazing thing. It can be a genuine teacher. Slowly, I am learning that I have to ask for help, too. WE can not strive in silence, praying someone we love or a perfect stranger will swoop in and offer a hand if we are afraid to ask. No one can read our minds.
So, I started to think about our no payment for chores policy. We already have our kids make their beds, clean up after themselves in the bathroom, take out the trash, pick up after themselves and put away their laundry. All of this is in the spirit of the family team. We provide their needs.
We realize they are capable of more- and they have a desire to make and save money. So, we decided to interview them for a vital task the team needs more than ever as I launch my website and work to submit my book for publication- housework. Above and beyond. The things they weren't doing but could be. We had a family meeting tonight and proposed a system where they clock in and fill out a checklist to show the jobs they do to help carve out time for our growing goals. Phoenix is now taking on the laundry for the house (if I am crumpled and stained for a bit as he learns, please forgive me!) Petey is taking on dishes and deeper cleaning of the countertops and floors. Both are helping with meal prep.
Our hope is that it will teach them how to do things they will need to know how to do by the middle of our ten year plan (not sending them to college unaware of how to cook or do their laundry). Also, one day, they will be the kind of partner (we pray) that lends a hand in all of the household tasks. Money management? It's part of this picture. Bonus, they see how important our teamwork is- and how hard their moms are working to reach their dreams.
Who can you ask for help? Is there a new way to look at this simple and powerful task that empowers both parties?
Intuitive mother, writer, teacher, wellness coach, daughter, wife, friend and advocate for true belonging and self love.