We don't have to be face to face to forgive.
While the act of letting go of our attack and anger means our Ego is likely to throw a tantrum, we can release our need to judge, attack and defend to the work of our inner guide- our "ING" as Gabby refers to it. Our internal spirit is lighter, freer as we move through this process of letting go. Radical forgiveness allows us to accept others as they are, but also to accept ourself as we are. We become more empowered, more free. We let go of negative energy attached to existing in a feedback loop of irritation, anger, resentment.
This one week of the May Cause Miracles challenge has taken me about three-four weeks to actually process. It's not easy work. Although I view myself as someone who readily loves others, sees their strengths and is open to their perspectives- I have recently been hurt by others who haven't been as present for me as I thought that they might be. I'd opened up, I'd let myself become very vulnerable and I thought I was safe. So, the act of stepping away when I really needed them left me a little shell shocked. I'd been carrying around shards of glass in my chest cavity. It was hard to breathe.
The relationship focus of this week has been exactly what I needed. It's allowed me to see the people who hurt me with more loving eyes. I know the distance has not been about me- it is about something outside of my experience- it has been about theirs. Maya Angelou once said, "You did then what you knew how to do. When you knew better, you did better." I felt the hurt, the sting, the disappointment then. Now I am moving on, feeling lighter and setting up new boundaries- healthier ones.
We learn who and what is "for" us in challenges. Some of those same who's and what's might be "for us" in happiness, but not in darkness. Knowing this can set both parties free. We no longer have the surprise or disappointment because we let go of expectation and allow what is to take the place of what could be.
As I moved through my yesterday, I truly felt as though the work I'd been doing was paying off. It's like I woke up 10lbs lighter- even though my body was sick from my second vaccination, my mind was no longer leaden and my heart was ready to expand again.
F-Everyone is a new phrase I will call to mind when I feel that anger, attack or judgment creeping back in. FORGIVE everyone and feel lighter.
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