Goodmorning, morning glories! Words to start your day today... empower yourself. You don't have to be perfect to be making an impact in major ways. On an ordinary day, only 20% of the thoughts we think are conscious. So, how often do you hear yourself belittling, degrading, shaming or guilting yourself?
How often do you doubt- even in subtle ways- perhaps looking and wishing for you to be someone different, somewhat different, different looking, different sounding, more of this or that? Less of this or that? Do you dim, shy a way, tone down, take up less space, step aside? If a fair number of the thoughts you think are negative, imagine that the sea of thoughts swirling beneath your waves of consciousness is made up of a sea of dark, negativity. There are strong thoughts surfacing, and they aren't helping you. The source is deeper, rooted in core worries.
It's time to get to the source and empower ourselves on that deeper level. Find an empowering message to counter each of the negative ones. As each negative thought surfaces, lovingly acknowledge it and greet it with a higher truth. You are amazing. You are strong. You are capable. You are worthy. As often as you can, repeat these positive thoughts in your mind. Say them out loud. Get empowered.
Clove, ginger and tea tree are oils that empower.
Clove helps us stop relying on the outside world, pressures and our sense of pleasing others. It helps us focus on our own thoughts and our own personal power in decision making. It helps create energetic boundaries for people who have been misused and encroached upon in some way.
Ginger is empowering to the person energetically. It allows us to align with our purpose, commit and be present, engaged in creating our realities and our dreams.
Tea Tree helps to cleanse negative energies and relationships. A disinfectant, tea tree clears up toxins in the physical world but also the physical body and spiritual world. It won't stand for energetic vampires of any kind.
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For more information, message me or check out my site at sinclair-emergence.com. Join my free, private wellness group on FB Journey Through the Wilderness. Be empowered. Mentally, naturally, physically. Love, LeeAnn
Sometimes the most important thing we can do to start our day is to look in the mirror for just a moment and to realize that to someone, we are beautiful, valuable and loved beyond measure. Truly. You may have forgotten how your eyes sparkle, but someone else sees it. You may have forgotten that way you smile and warm another's heart. But believe me, it is felt. Your presence brings joy, complexity, depth and beauty to this world... a beauty and a mark that no one else can offer.
As you step into the light of your day and face your challenges. As you feel small, dis- empowered, frumpy or old, remember that you matter, you are beautiful and you are loved. Oils that support body confidence... grapefruit and slim & sassy. You can diffuse, add to your lotion (don't wear it out in the sun or you might get a sun burn), add it to your water to stave off cravings and use a few drops with white vinegar for laundry softener. Have a beautiful day!
For more, check out my site: sinclair-emergence.com or message me! Love to all!
Rain is tapping at the windows. Bird song. The first of the year. A heavy fog mutes the hard edges of the treetops. Grey skies, brown grass. New England spring could be missed if we only see the rain. Not here. Not in this heart or this home. Let's open our eyes to it as often as we can.
We can smell the earth, warm and humid coming from our green house, a small castle of seedlings with tiny, fragile shoots reaching for the skies. Our pansies are waiting to be planted in the containers outside, but frost is still to possible, still too likely. Just as we are held up in our homes, these little blooms are hostages, too. Of course, plants don't mind the rain. They need it. Plants don't mind the protection, it is for their own good. So, fighting this inevitability is both what separates us from the plants (entirely human) and it's futile. Plus, it discounts our inner strength and natural ability to bloom under pressure.
Just as nature goes through this natural isolation and separation, so do we. In some religions, these troubled times are referred to as shadows. Some, contrast. Without the dark, there is no appreciation for the light. Yin and Yang, energies are in balance. Seasons in our hearts and in our lives are much like the seasons and the cycles of nature- joy, sadness, triumph and failure are all necessary for our growth.
So, as we walk in the world today, notice those little crocus blooms- pushing through the edges of brown earth. Notice the vibrant colors and stark contrast they offer. They had to wait all winter to greet us, to leave their mark. These sweet little blooms are a reminder, a messenger. Listen to the birds flitting around, landing and looking for worms. They are reminding us, that abundance is coming. The earth is fertile, just like our spirits, if we look around and notice. Take a walk in the woods and notice the red, supple buds on the edges of trees. They are just about to burst forward with leaves, with Kelly green, the color of archangel Raphael ; the color of healing.
Nature is our truest reminder that we can overcome difficulties, that we can evolve when pushed to change. We are not separate from nature, after all. Sometimes we just need a reminder, sometimes we just need to take a moment to listen, to see, to feel, to be present.
To support a sense of renewal, try bringing DoTerra oils into your home. They are purely distilled from nature- nothing added, nothing removed. In my diffuser, I have placed Geranium, Ylang Ylang and lavender. It's almost as if I have bouquets blossoming in my house. These oils aren't just about smelling pretty. I can also add a drop of them into my moisturizer to care for my skin. They have no side effects and no toxins. They are a reminder that the world is about to bloom. We are about to see the bright, beautiful spring.
Peace, love and health to you.
P.S. If you're interested in purchasing the oils, message me for a consult (free) or click on the picture for a link to the products.
There are people who NEED us. As parents, we try. We try to take care of everything and everyone. Sometimes, the hardest thing to do is say, "No. No, I can't help you." But, when we care for our elderly parents or we have a child with underlying health conditions, no might be our only choice.
Today, on the verge of tears, our family had to say no to helping another part of our family we love dearly. This same part of our family comes to help us and has done so multiple times. They are loved, cherished and so appreciated. We have been the couple with the kids, one of whom has significant allergies and asthma. Having kids has made it harder to drop everything and run to the aide of others. It has limited our time with family members who smoke and live in houses with carpets or with pets. We wouldn't change our family or our child. It is a lose:lose. There is a guilt that hangs over us when we are more often asking for help than offering.
Now, take this COVID outbreak. Prior to the outbreak, we were eager to dig our hands in and contribute over a weekend or a week night, but, since then... we have sheltered our children. We have only allowed two family members into our house on two separate occasions. I have only gone to the store one time. I have stopped running in my group. Rarely do I check in on the news (I limit to one time per day) and the hardest thing is seeing the people drowning in their own lungs, alone in a hospital room. No one to watch over them, no priest or clergy to bring them peace- just the devoted hospital staff (God bless you all) and the other dying patients 6 feet away.
I will never advocate for imagining the worst. Unless you, like me, have a bleeding heart that allows you to go down a rabbit hole of guilt when you have to say no. NOW IS THE TIME for NO. If you have a family member at risk, your answer to a group gathering is, "No." But even people not "at risk" are "at risk". It literally took me imagining my twelve year old asthmatic son for a brief moment, dying alone, to help me feel firm in my "no", It is sad, sick and terrible to have to go there.
As parents, we have a decision to make. We make it every time we see our kids "go off to run at the track" as I heard a local woman cry... only to find that when checked, the local teens were congregating and jumping car to car. We choose to allow and trust or we choose to ensure our children's safety and say, "no." There are myriad ways to be there for one another and to provide social support or help. The family I can't physically move into another apartment- I can send you pizza delivery or drop off a case of beer. The teens who want to socialize have social media- a method they previously used constantly, even when given the opportunity to be face to face.
We can take precautions and remove our clothes at the door, jump into the shower and scour our bodies, but if infected, we carry this inside of ourselves, unknown and invisible for over a week. Post shower snuggling puts our loved ones at risk. Just ask a nurse, a doctor or anyone at the grocery store who has to work because they are essential. Ask them if they are afraid they could have it and despite scouring, they could spread it to their own loved ones.
This is why we have to say, "No." No is not the same as, "I don't love you." or "You aren't good enough for me". No is not, "I'm selfish " No is not, "I'm weak." No might take the most strength you can muster up, but you have to say it right now.
Soon, the more people say no, the more people we love that will remain. The more people we will still be able to celebrate with when this whole thing is behind us.
This is your formal permission to say "No" coming from a girl who said it, broke her own heart and then realized it was the only real, right choice.
I love you all. Be strong, be safe, believe we will get through this.
If nothing else- we all must realize how fortunate we are to have our health.
COVID-19 swept over us like a cold chill. It crept into our borders, infiltrated our cities and slunk into our quiet suburban neighborhoods- almost undetected. In a flash, the sweet, hugging town I live in- where baseball, wine in adult sippy cups and slaps to the back (of the mostly good-natured sort) are a common occurrence- we distanced, gloved, masked, sanitized and separated. Our children, who often taustle like country farm boys from the time of Tom Sawyer are not pig-piled 6 men deep in the front yard, wrestling away for a football. We learned early of our first case and many wanted to know- who, where, did I connect with them? The same number wanted to respect their privacy and tend to their own little households, their own fears and their own protective measures. We all watched as China, Italy, Spain and other countries lost humans in the single digits at first. Then, tripled, quadrupled and magnified the loss by hundreds in a twenty four hour period. It's coming for us, is the general sense. People prepare to quarantine and often express the dire sensation that if they are infected and have underlying health concerns- they will not make it. Husbands and wives hole up in the camper outside after returning from their job on the front lines- the hospitals where they serve, clean, protect and heal. Diabetics, the elderly, asthmatics, people with suppressed immune systems are especially cautious.
In my house, I have a son with asthma. Across the border, just six hours and lifetimes away, my father is elderly, a diabetic and a recent cancer survivor. It is now that I am most thankful to know that when people refer to "New York" as the "Hotbed" for the outbreak, they really mean the city, not the quaint town my parents live in, nestled against the river and protected by a ridge of hills. Four hours from major outbreak and continued loss. Yet, I know, that predictions say 80% of Americans will get the virus. So, what magic will keep that 20% safe? How many will survive it? How will we know what to expect the future to look like? When will kids go to school again? When will they form their baseball teams and when will the barbecues sizzle with friends ready to enjoy the feast? The questions go on and on.
Some say Mother Nature has sent us to our bedrooms to "Think about what we've done." This seems particularly accurate. As we stop traveling from point A to point B guzzling gas, releasing noxious fumes into the atmosphere, over producing, over using and throwing everything out in the trash- to be hauled off to fill what once was a beautiful meadow with the skeletons of our gluteny- I can't help but concur that the breather is warranted. Of course, no one wants to lose their business or see their family hurting; that goes without saying.
So, how do we respond to it? For each of us, the response is going to be different. For many of us, it seems our response fluctuates from moment to moment. One moment, we are terrified, the next elated at the sudden space that has been forced upon us. It feels like breathing space.
At the end of this time, what will we want to look back and think?
This is a time for intentionality. This is a time for prioritizing. If we find ourselves replicating the busy-ness we had prior to this forced distancing, we need to find just two minutes to sit down and ask ourselves why? Is it necessary? Is it a self imposed mayhem? Are we continuing to fly through our days jumping from one task to the next and feeling exhausted, stressed and irritable? Can we impose some sort of structure that prioritizes a different choice? I've asked myself this very question as piles of projects and tasks have sent me running in circles.
It seems painfully clear that at the very least, we need to focus on health, family, presence of mind, and passions. Health- over and over again, state and federal, world and faith based leaders have said, "Without our health we have nothing." There is no economy if we have no one to serve and no one to serve if the creators, producers, merchants and delivery services are sick. There is no family, no memory making with friends, no place to go, no one to see. Truly, no reason if we aren't well enough to enjoy it.
So, what do we need to focus on with our health?
Pick three priority areas you'd like to improve or increase... be it feelings, energy, strength- you name it.
What do we need to decrease? Choose three.
Make a plan to approach those three priority areas... one step at a time. Ask for help if you don't know where to start, I am happy to help you make a plan.
For me, I need to decrease my comfort eating and wine. I need to keep my movement in my schedule and find my space to meditate. Without the hydration
Even before the economy, much of the world worries about the safety of those we love. Remember those parents six hours and lifetimes away? What if they get sick and I can't see them or don't get to spend quality time with them again- ever? This illness has taken root so quickly and latched on with invisible claws. What if, what if? The questions and desire to protect is fierce. Again, this is a time to take a step back and make those daily connections with people we love- even if it is from afar. Best intentions and the wild ride we are on can get in the way- even last night, we planned to video conference with my parents and something came up- something distracted us. These moments have to be planned in and prioritized. When all is said and done with this virus, will we have built trust and love or will we have been distant and left fear in it's place?
Are you connecting in quality ways? What do you plan into your day that is joyful and deeply present with your family?
I see my boys doing their academics as planned in the morning. They are getting more and more independent, but what about quality moments with me one on one? I need to focus on each child in a meaningful way. Even stop myself during the day to play and sketch and cook with them.
Presence of Mind:
In the blender of time we have, do we stop and become aware of our spinning? Moments when we expand and look around, take in the sights, sounds, the softness- those are the richest- even when we are sitting still, doing nothing at all. We are living more fully in that moment. If we allow all of our fears and the things we can't control to spin around us- if we grasp and search and wonder and float and worry, we lose so much time. We are all going to do this... there is no question. Even the most trained gurus will find their mind out of control in a moment like this. The important part is beginning to develop a rope and an anchor. Like a kite, pulled away by the wind, if we have an anchor to return to and a strategy for returning (some kind of tether) we can reel ourselves back in. There is no need to be angry or waste precious time chastising our floating- our drifting, just gently return to the values, to the breathe, to the moment. When we are aware and reflective, we can course correct. We can re-align with the priorities we set forth. This act of noticing we strayed in our thoughts, actions or values and this choice of returning is the work we need to praise ourselves for.
This is a time to begin a breathing practice, plug into a short meditation app, take a walk in nature, or sit in silence for short periods through out the day. We must train our brains to focus on those things we value most. Otherwise, the information overload alone will pull us into a black hole and we will lose so much of this time to it. Hide out in the bathroom if you must, but take a few quiet moments so you don't lose all of your day in the cyclone.
What if in the void of contact, a little creative spirit started poking at us? What if Mother Nature isn't just angry, but actually, a loving mother? What if she actually wants us to go back to our rooms, to return to the source of ourselves... the unique voice we have to offer, the unique gifts we have to give? What if she's noticed we've been running, too long- doing the chores and building the dreams of others- but we haven't nurtured our own? What if Mother Nature really just wants us to realize our wholeness again by re-imagining our worlds, reclaiming our talents, playing, joyfully? We are all unrepeatable miracles. We are all here for some reason. We have unique voices and ways and fingerprints. Are we etching our own marks or are we etching someone elses? Our imprint on this planet and the communities we live in should be our own.
This space can be time to pick up that instrument we left collecting dust- the one we were sure as a child we'd use to rock the big stage with. This space can be a nudge to take out cups of water and paint brushes- if not for the genius of it- but for the joy of it! Business on the rocks? This is where we get creative, this is where our passions help us re-invent. It is not a waste of time to nurture our curiosity, to research, to create, to discover, to develop. Binge read personal development books, write, sing, dance!
Since when have we been freer to do things OUR way? Never. Never before.
Last, but definitely not least, I once wrote my own epitaph. Not because I am morbidly depressed. It was more of a calling card to the universe. I wanted to clarify the person I want to be- the impact I want to leave. So, in a few sentences, I began... "Here lies..... a loving mother, a passionate writer, a loyal friend... " I need to revisit that statement, because it became my anchor, my compass, my value steering wheel. Cathy Heller likes to say, "The opposite of depression isn't joy, it's purpose." I think this is true. Write out your purpose. Make your mission statement. No matter how the chips fall, if we walk in purpose, we can't be far from the path that will lead us to something beautiful- something divine.
My beautiful friends, I want to finish by saying that YOU give me purpose. I want to take a minute to say that my family, my writing, and my community of readers helps me stay clear, intentional, healthy and sane. I love all of you and appreciate you more than you know. Each time I have someone to reach out to- to steer toward better health, or to empathize with, you are helping me walk this path of authenticity, nurturing and growth. Thank you, for listening, reading and being YOU. Dear reader, know that YOU are vitally important in this world- not just to me, but to other people and you might not know it. In the darkest moments, in this wild hurricane, let's be an anchor for one another- and know that you are for someone else. You matter, you are powerful, and your voice needs to be heard.
If we start with resolve to be strong, there are still going to be times when we crumble. We may start out weak and afraid- only to find there is intense fortitude buried deep within our soul... enough to straighten our spine, lift our heads up high, smile when we want to cry and brighten the home for others. There will be times we feel utterly lost and then times when we are profoundly aware of our presence and the gift of that very moment. We are going to set goals and make progress. We will will stumble, back peddle and even fall. But then, one day, with enough attempts, there might be a moment of pride, looking down at it all from a higher vantage point- one of hard fought success. One moment we might want to get dressed up and the next, cry on the bathroom floor with a pint of Ben & Jerry's because we realize there is no where to go out to.
We will come together on our porches and raise a glass of wine or a pint of beer to our neighbors as they pass by- unable to stop and sit down. Yet, we will construct all sorts of ways to virtually come together. Through social workouts, singing, happy hour and classrooms. We will spread art and love and even a few more babies will be born because of this. Our future will be here. It might be different and un-knowable. But that doesn't mean we aren't capable of getting there. Our fears may stop us but then our courage will answer the call.
All of this is ok. We are ok. We are enough. We are perfect. We will get through this together because we are all in this together.
Oils for self love, physical presence: Patchouli, white grapefruit. Oils for love: rose, on guard
Prepare to start your day cleansed, to receive positive guidance from within and then to protect your energy at sunrise. Click on the picture or the link for the newest guided meditation from Emergence Podcast. We all need to channel our thinking in healthy ways. Let me know if you like it and how I can tailor a meditation toward your needs.
Angels, ancestors and guides, thank you for your wisdom. Thank you for protecting my family, my community and this world with your love and light. Thank you for guiding me along this path, along this journey. Thank you for showing me the next steps to align with my higher purpose and to live an authentic life. Thank you for guiding me to uplift others in a spirit of love and light. Amen.
Today's meditation is meant for sunrise. It is a moment you can take to breathe in and to trust the universe, yourself, and your life. It is a gift of renewal for you to greet the day as a new, freshly cleansed you, with seeds of positivity sewn.
Find a comfortable seated position, lie on the floor in rocket man pose with your legs bent at ninety degrees and your lower legs up on a chair, or, you can position yourself comfortably upright on a meditation cushion or pillow.
We are in danger of losing our minds. Literally. Coronavirus may not be impacting our physical health, but all of the fear, the distancing and the added demands of trying to control what we can't is a bit overwhelming for our brain. We are kicking into information overload and the stress response impacts your ability to fight illness, make good decisions, and maintain your happiness. None of this even needed explanation.
So, in an effort reduce your overload, I am going to say that the number one thing keeping me from going nuts on day 4 of social isolation.
Schedule in time that is free from technology and corona free.
Find a way to put into your schedule blocks of time where you don't answer the phone, you turn off the tv and computer, and you plan something you need to do or want to do.
Today, I plan to workout, I plan to write, I plan to read. I even think I'll try to block time for one of those mind-numbing tv shows I never get to watch.
What passion have you longed to connect with but can't because your world is turned upside down? What can you do to be physically active to move your body in order to reduce the stress? What apps do you have that engage your kids so you don't have to lord over them for a few. Try Gonoodle.com for physical activity. Khanacademy.org allows you to set up lessons with a click and progress monitor your child while it sytematically assesses and places your child.
Beachbodyondemand.com offers a year of physical exercise you can do at home with your kids or by yourself. Our family will be doing "Double Time" a teamwork based workout made for families and fitness partners by Tony Horton. If you need a coach, message me and I'll recommend some you might like.
For a beautiful new coloring book, Ralph Masiello just released one called Fantastic Fruits.
Fantastic Fruits: A Grimal Grove Coloring Book
Learn more: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1623541417/ref=cm_sw_em_r_mt_dp_U_oirCEbTYB4YAK (Link is attached to the coloring book above)
Maybe you'd like to try the Calm App or Headspace and long for some oils to help you deepen your meditation. Here are some of my picks for mood and meditation: The image below is a link to a cart that can be changed if you want the oils!
The sun is rising amber to pale peach against the feathery tree tops in the distance. This morning, before all else, I need to set intentions and find some peace inside my heart. I apply copaiba, lemongrass, frankincense, clary sage and clove to the palms of my hands. I breathe the oils in deeply and rub them on the back of my neck, my chest, the fronts of my wrists. The oils help me deepen my meditation because over time, I have been pairing them with these still moments, the limbic system receives the message readily; my body responds easily to their scent. I don't have to work so hard to breathe and expand.
My reading today contains three pulls, one for my community, one for my family and one for myself, so that I can receive any messages that might help me live my purpose and be more present for others. The answers are reassuring, but still, there is so much more to know. Some of that mystery simply has to be experienced and I have to accept that.
This morning, I choose to be quiet, to find some peace within, to set an intention and think about how best to spend the day. I need to acknowledge what is real for me right now. The hard stuff, the hurt, the fear can not break free unless I acknowledge it and let it flow. If I stop it up, it just swells into a flood. I have to be present for myself before I can truly be present for the little boys who have yet to pad down the steps to greet me.
On my heart: It's the first time I will be able to enter my classroom for a brief time to retrieve belongings. I didn't expect to feel so sad about it. With all of the other what ifs and sudden changes, I am really just allowing myself to grieve this time lost with my students. My students are adopted in my heart and I will be without them for almost a month- maybe more if we follow Italy. My parents. My dad is diabetic and just fought cancer. Will he stay home, socially isolate? Will he be ok when he does? My mom- forever a waitress and caregiver- serving others, will she stop to take care of herself? Will she stay active in isolation and tend the seeds of her inner garden? My wife- will she have to work every day and continue to bring home the heavy burden of what-ifs that surround her teachers who will be impacted by this financial loss- a group already underpaid and undervalued despite the contribution they make to this world by working with our youngest population? As the pandemic swoops in, who will be sick? Who will be lost? How will we move through that grief? On the simplest level, how will I meet the needs of my children, my students and myself in this?
Putting it all into words allows a download, it's like clearing up space in your cell phone or your computer. It feels good to unload some of the thoughts and worries that we can't possibly have the answers for. Now, it's time to let them go. Breathe deeply, picture a happy moment you love from the past or imagine a beautiful moment you can create today. If you love the beach, start by imagining all of the freedom you feel at that beach. Breathe in the salty air, feel the mist off of the water. Imagine your toes in the soft sand. Sit on the beach towel and let the sun warm your body or watch the sunset over the water. Imagine your children or friends playing in the sand next to you. Hear the birds and the waves lapping.
Once you find the peace of your special place, begin to imagine a beautiful moment within your current surroundings and with your loved ones or with something that brings you joy. If you have children, picture making that cookie project and laughing or playing UNO, building with blocks or coloring. Feel the warmth of the smiles, imagine the hugs and snuggles and high fives. Taste the sweetness of the treat. Set an intention to make that happen. Put it into plan. When will you fit that moment into your day? If you live alone, see yourself doing something you love. Can you go for a quiet walk in the woods? Can you see yourself reading a great book? Painting a picture? Working out? What joy can you get by diving into a passion you get lost in or used to? Now is the time to pick it back up. Find or order supplies now, before deliveries slow.
Place one hand on your heart and one on your stomach feel the warmth and grounding. To receive more uplfiting feelings adn spaciousness, try the Jnana Mudra. Connect your index finger with your thumb forming a circle. Turn your hands so your palms are facing up and place them over your knees. Breathe and feel the sense of insight growing in your palms.
Take the time to schedule in moments that are so sacred you can't pick up the phone to find the latest news- block out at least 20 minutes at regular intervals for something that is real, healthy and concrete. Promise yourself to be present for these periods of time.
On my schedule for real time today:
upper body workout
30 minutes of family reading
A 1.5 mile run with Petey
30 minutes of basketball with Phoenix
Cooking with a glass of wine
30 minutes of writing (minimum)
laundry catch up
Today, feel free to share your ideas about how best to find peace and joy in a difficult situation. What intentions can you set? Which did you pull off?
Intuitive mother, writer, teacher, wellness coach, daughter, wife, friend and advocate for true belonging and self love.