Confidence means many things to many different people. There's the kind that helps you solve a tough math problem, work up the courage to ask someone on a date, the kind needed for trying out a new skill or scaling a mountain. For women, we often think about body confidence, too.
One thing that can really crush confidence at the onset is a true, gut wrenching challenge... the kind we didn't plan on. Recently, I was hit with one of those... I'll keep it private as it's not just my story to tell, but.. the first few weeks I wrestled with self doubt, fears, exhaustion, foggy brain, emotional rollercoasters- you name it.
I woke up one day and looked around at all of the tasks and jobs, the hats, the hobbies, the hustles. I realized that to survive right now, I have to focus. I need to cut back the layers of my life and get down to the very core of what is important.
I decided workouts weren't optional. Every day, I need to start my day with movement. By focusing on my workouts and adding in a more balanced, nourishing diet, I was able to regulate my mood. Each time I stepped on the treadmill expecting to cry off my stress and collapse, I put one foot in front of the other and sweat it out instead.
I need connection to people who truly love me and have my back. Every morning that I workout, I see my mother. We workout together through Zoom- even though she is 6 hours away, she is with me. It's a mini hug and a way to wrap family into my routines. We meditate for four minutes, using my Beachbody On Demand account- taking turns sharing about what we are doing, problem solving, crying a little and laughing a little, too. I reach out to own of my best friends, Owen, or hear from him every day, too. It's comforting to have a simple text to look forward to. While there are a few people who've been instrumental in supporting us, my sister in law, Steff, is definitely one of them. She has been my go to for all things I need removed from my plate to function as a mother, a teacher and a human right now. Without being able to connect to people who love us, we wouldn't be able to ask for help when we need it. I've needed her support to transport the kids sometimes, she's cleaned my house and brought me a hot cup of coffee when I struggled at work. God, I am grateful to these people.
I reach for my oils. These babies are jam-packed with the healing power of nature. Even as a little girl, I loved the flowers, the trees, the forest and the magic that they brought me. Now, I put a few drops of oil into my diffuser, or add some to my water. I love the motivate blend for uplifting my mood, for focusing my confusion into a more courageous outlook. My son loves the Brave roller, too. We use it when he faces his own challenges (think batting against a fast pitcher or for test taking).
When I'm sore from my workout- it's deep blue rub and as I move more and more, I am feeling less and less discomfort. I am actually not embarrassed of being photographed in my sports bra for this article. I used to be proud of my abs- the strength they brought me after delivering myself on Petey. But, they've been hiding under layers of self protection, toxic foods and layers of clothing. The focus on my self care has helped me to literally strengthen more core, and figuratively do the same.
So, this is not a post to brag about my success or to show off my sports bra. This is a post to encourage you to care for yourself when you are most challenged. When you want to curl in a ball and die, or sleep the day away to avoid it all- that is when we most need to find the activities and people who nourish us. That is when movement can help us find a courage we didn't know we had. That is when we have to say no and set up boundaries we didn't put in place before. The confidence to voice what it is we most need and what we most need to clear from the plate, is a glorious side effect of growing through challenge.
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As a woman navigating two chronic pain conditions and the mother of two boys (one with asthma and allergies) I have been incorporating healing practices and natural solutions into our lives for a long time. When we discovered the impact of reducing our toxic load through essential oils, the benefits of 100%pure, therapeutic grade oils and the beauty of no side effect remedies, DoTerra oils became a lifestyle for us. To get the most from our oils, we make cleaners, body washes, treatments for ailments, energetic and emotional rollers and just about anything you can imagine. We are here to help you navigate the overwhelming options and start taking your natural healing path one step at a time. Love, LeeAnn